God doesn’t see things the way the world does. That was potentially good news for me, since as a single person, I felt that I was failing miserably in the world’s eyes! But I wasn’t clear on what that entailed. If God doesn’t evaluate my worth based on the world’s standards, then how does he evaluate me? I asked God to help me understand, and luckily, that’s a request he loves to receive!
Here’s how he began to open my eyes. Around that time, I was asked to look at the book of Genesis and to write down some thoughts for people who might be reading it for the first time.
A Lamb and a Cow...
As I did that, one of the stories hit me hard. It was the story of two sisters – Leah and Rachel. Younger sister Rachel was the Megan Fox of biblical times. Her name means “little lamb,” and Gen 29:17 basically says that she was hot. It’s no wonder that Jacob fell in love with her! In fact, he had it so bad that he was willing to work for her father 7 years just to be able to marry her, and those 7 years seemed like only a few days because of his love for her (yeah, I gagged a little bit right there).
Big sis Leah, on the other hand, was someone with whom I could identify. She had a name that means “cow.” (That’s when you know your parents hate you.) The best thing the narrator could say about her was that she had weak eyes. That’s certainly not a glowing description! And there were definitely no guys working 7 years to buy Leah’s hand in marriage.
Poor Cowgirl didn’t seem to have any potential in life. In fact, her own father must have assumed that she could never attract a husband on her own, so he decided to help her out. On the night of what was supposed to be Rachel’s wedding, Laban tricked the groom by sending Leah to the tent instead of his beloved little lamb.
As you might imagine, Jacob was less than thrilled when the sun came up the next day and he realized whom he had married. (This may have been the origin of the phrase “have a cow”.) Luckily for Jacob, he was able to “fix” the problem by working another 7 years in order to marry Rachel, but this ignited a bitter rivalry between the two sisters, and frankly, Leah’s self-esteem must have been shot.
To her father, she was a lost cause. To her sister, she was in the way. To her husband, she was an unwanted nuisance. In fact, when Gen 29:31 says that Leah was “not loved,” that Hebrew word might be better translated as “hated.” Wow. Leah didn’t have anything going for her. She didn’t possess any traits that the world (or even her family) valued. She was disregarded and disrespected by everyone closest to her. She must have felt as if her life was destined for failure.
Rachel, on the other hand, seemed poised for success. She had beauty; she had love; she had a husband whom God had promised to make into a great nation. The ending of this story seems like a no-brainer: Victory – Rachel. And Leah…um, who’s that?
A Twist in the Story (part 2)...
But that’s not the way it works out. Gen 29:31 says that God saw Leah’s distress and that he intervened. Despite her lack of potential, Cowgirl Leah had a son, Judah, who became the ancestor of King David, and ultimately of Jesus. That’s quite a legacy to leave! Leah, the seemingly worthless one, became a vital part of God’s plan to restore the world to perfection.
(That’s not to say that God rejected Rachel. After all, she left a legacy, too, by giving birth to Joseph, who saved Egypt and the new nation of Israel during a famine.)
But the amazing part to me was the way my expectations about Leah were reversed. Someone who was expected to have no significance at all actually ended up playing an essential role in God’s story. Someone who was passed over and rejected by everyone she knew was specially chosen by God. Someone whom the world looked at and said, “worthless” was labeled “worthy” by God.
How did that happen? Why would someone who doesn’t measure up be chosen to play such an important role in God’s story? It’s because God doesn’t evaluate based on the same standards as the world does. When he gets involved, everything gets reversed.
Good News!...
Now for someone like me who felt like a cow in a pasture full of little lambs, this was really good news. You see, here would be the world’s prescription for a “Leah”. The world would say, “The problem is that you don’t measure up. So what you need to do is to try harder. You need to figure out where you fall short and then put all of your energy into fixing those things – and if you’re such a loser that you can’t fix yourself, then you need to cover up the areas where you don’t meet our standards.”
And like the good citizen that I was, I had been listening to what the world was telling me. I knew that I didn’t measure up to society’s standards – especially in the area of being single – so I’d been trying as hard as I possibly could to fix myself. I read books about how to find a date worth keeping, and I followed their advice to the letter. I attended seminars on how to not be single, and I enacted their self-improvement plans with gusto. I based all of my decisions on what would make me appear more like a “little lamb.” And when none of that worked, I threw myself into being “Teacher Extraordinaire” or “Church Volunteer Deluxe” – hoping to distract everyone from the fact that I was totally and completely falling short.
But all of this effort was exhausting, because deep down I knew that no matter how hard I tried, this “Leah” was never going to be able to turn herself into a “Rachel.” Even if I did succeed in fooling everybody into thinking I was a “Rachel,” I knew that I could never keep it up long term, because it was all an illusion.
But God’s prescription sounded way better to me than the world’s. God was telling me this: “Maybe you don’t measure up to the world’s standards. But guess what! It doesn’t really matter! That’s because when I look at you, I see everything I ever hoped you would be. I see someone who’s worth MORE than seven years of work. I see someone who is chosen. I see someone who is loved. And really, whose standards would you rather live up to: those of a bunch of imperfect people, or those of the perfect God who MADE those people (and you)?
“So what you need to do is NOT try harder. What you need to do is just relax and have confidence! You don’t need to fix yourself in an attempt to look better to anyone else because you’re the kind of person I really like.” Wow. To have the richest, most powerful, most sought after guy in the universe telling me that I’m the kind of person he really likes…that’s quite a compliment.
And when I finally heard that, I began to see something that I’d never noticed before. That’s that throughout the entire Bible, God is ALWAYS choosing people who don’t measure up. He’s always ignoring the way the world evaluates, he’s always giving purpose to those without potential, and he’s always reversing our expectations.
Man's Trash and God's Treasure...
For example, in the book of Genesis alone, there are six different times when God chose to bless a brother who was not the firstborn – even though in that culture, the firstborn was the one who was expected to get the birthright and all the privileges. And also in Genesis, there are three separate times when God chose to extend his covenant by giving a son to a barren woman – even though no one would have ever expected these women to have ANY babies; much less babies of promise. God saw something valuable in these people even when no one else did.
The rest of the Bible continues this same theme! God chose Moses to be his spokesperson, even though he probably flunked public speaking. He chose to save Rahab from the disaster in Jericho, even though she was the town hooker. He chose David as the king of Israel, even though his own brothers thought he was a conceited slacker. God is always seeing potential in those whom the world expects to fail.
Jesus took things a step further. We’d expect the son of God to hang out with the highly respected religious types. After all, they’re the ones who would make him popular and help him to advance his agenda. Instead, though, he sat at the geeks’ lunch table. He hung out with the poor, the sick, the socially awkward, and the people whom everyone else avoided. He even hung out with – gasp – single people!
And he didn’t hang out with these people because he felt sorry for them; he hung out with them because he liked them. That’s because God ignores our standards of measurement and he reverses our expectations. Man’s trash is God’s treasure. So I couldn’t help but think…if God reversed the verdict on all these people, then was it possible he could reverse the verdict on this pathetic perpetually single girl?
What God was saying definitely gave me hope, but to a skeptic like me, it was almost too good to be true. Besides that, even if God thought I was okay, how could that affect my life here and now, as I lived among a world of people that labeled me a loser? As I’m sure you’ve guessed, God was happy to continue our conversation.